#198: What I learned from Abraham Hicks Part 2
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Hey, and welcome back to the show. So, I am packing to head to Tulum, Mexico. So, we fly into Cancun tomorrow. Super excited about that. Can’t wait to hang out with some yogis in the jungle, doing some amazing adventuring, and eating some yummy foods. And I have a surprise guest with me this week.
I’m a bit surprised that she’s decided to come. My daughter is coming with me, and I am very fired up about that. You know, my mission is the million-dollar “grammy” mission where we create change within generations and how that’s passed through our children, grandchildren, and beyond.
Whether you have kids or not, it’s just a part of the generational patterning, patterns changing, and that’s been a tough one, especially for women who are supposed to be home and caretaking and kids, and to actually go and do something for yourself, something that’s personal. It’s almost like still bad out here in the south, or that’s what some people still believe.
And so that’s been actually kind of a tough for me personally, who doesn’t believe that and has kind of broken the cycle in my own family. So, to have my daughter come is really exciting. I feel like it is part of the movement happening. It is proof of staying in the belief, in the vibration of it staying in the opportunity without judging and comparing and being frustrated or angry or think it shouldn’t be, or judge how others are and what they think. There was none of that.
And then she just said, “I really want to go on one of your next trips that you do.” And this was something that she saw the picture online and was like, that’s where I want to go, so yay me celebrating and yay you.
For those who want to be the example of any kind of change and you’re actually seeing it happen before your very eyes, I will add onto this story. I had one other thing that happened, with my granddaughter. I went to her home. They had been traveling and for a few, like 13 hours, she was really tired.
She went to school the next day and she was like, “I can’t study, I can’t retain anything. I’m, I’ve got two tests and I’m trying to read. I can’t even focus,” is what she said. She’s in high school and so it was her little sister and I walk in the room, and I said, “do you want to try something that may help?” And she was kind of like, “yeah.”
I won’t admit that everyone in my family agrees with all the things that I do. They do see, see things differently, by the way, for those of you who are different, and you think everyone should agree with you, that’s not true. So, she says “yes,” because she was tired enough. So, I did some Tapping with her.
I took her through a couple of cycles of Tapping and showed her the power of it. Like to truly experience it in your own body viscerally, and that made a difference. And then we did some muscle testing. I was telling her that the only way I passed the test to become a massage therapist, that’s kind of stupid because it doesn’t ask anything about massage, that I used muscle testing in order to pass and I was actually afraid that I wouldn’t pass because I did not know those answers. But there’s a certain thing for those who are in my community, I can show you that my body does when the answer is, “yes.”
And so, what I would do is go down and then I would take the signal and that’s what I would, that’s literally how I did my test. So, I was telling her about it, and I took her through some muscle testing and said, listen, you can go and search and you know, read about it. You don’t have to listen to me.
Go and try it for yourself. And she sent me a message yesterday that said I could read it to you exactly because I don’t want to. “It’s very exciting,” she said. ‘Your method helped me pass my tests today. I made the highest grade in the class, and I normally can’t pass on her test,” she says.
Not only did I pass the test using your methods, but I also made the highest grade in the class. That’s powerful guys. What? Like that’s why I’m so excited to keep doing this work and to keep sharing it because it is fun. It feels really good. Not just when like things are changing for me, but when it’s changing around me.
So having my daughter come to Tulum and having my granddaughter make the highest grade, and there’s a couple of things that happened with my husband. I won’t get into it on this show, but just saying, we’re in a really good place and you can be too.
So, I’m going to extend last week’s episode a little bit, and I want to continue talking about the Abraham lessons.
For those of you who didn’t listen to Part 1, you can go back to it. What I didn’t talk about was the question that made such a huge impact: The experience of realizing the power of choice. That has changed me forever. It’s changed the way I see clients.
It’s changed the way I see myself, and the way that I understand what’s happening inside of my mind is actually dictating the flow of life huge. But this was pivotal. The question was, I’m invested in my client’s results. Many of you can relate, right?
So, you’re invested in your child’s results. You could say, I’m invested in my marriage, I’m invested in my family, and really believing the best and having this vision for what it could be like.
I’m very invested in that. Agreed. So, when I’m invested in my client or anyone else, any other human outside of myself, some flourish, some stall.
“What do I do?” that’s was like the question, “what do I do?” And God, this, this is like so mind-blowing. I feel like it’s too early in the show to tell you the answer, but I’m going to go for it.
Abraham’s answer: everyone has their own guidance system within themselves. You and me and everyone else. Consciousness is always guiding and leading us. I’m paraphrasing by the way. Consciousness is always right. Source is always right; it doesn’t stop ever. We just have to tap into it. We have to tap into that knowing. And feel it and sense it.
This is not new for me. I’ve been, my entire life, even as a little kid has been following this, I just thought I was wrong or bad because other people couldn’t relate to it.
I’m now realizing everyone has their own inner being. It’s always talking with them, right? It’s always happening. We can always see inner being wants this. Then the mind goes into all the fear and the excuses and the lack of belief. If their inner being, can’t tug them along, can’t get them to change their mind, do you think you can, how powerful is that?
For you coaches, for you, healers, practitioners, mamas that want to change someone else, partners, if their inner being can’t take them there, do you really believe that you can, and why would you want to, why would you want to be the source of their pulling them along?
And them not getting it from within themselves, then they’re always going to need you. It’s as if they’re going “mudding” and they always need your truck to come pull them out the mud when they get stuck. What’s going to happen when you’re not there? If their inner being can’t get them to move along, can’t get them going, can’t get them started, how do you think you are going to do it?
Same thing with your children, with your partner. Just really think about it. Every single person has an inner being. Every single person has a guidance system within themselves. Everyone. This is not a limited resource. It’s abundantly available. Consciousness is always moving through us. Just stop and pause for 10, 15-minute meditation and you’ll turn it on.
Stop looking outside of yourself for someone else to be the authority. Look inside yourself to be the authority.
Get guidance from friends and maybe feedback, but not expecting someone to save you or expecting someone to give you the business plan or expecting someone to do it for you. Because if a marketer or a business coach is marketing for you, they are doing it their way, they’re actually using their energy to attract people, that’s not yours.
It needs to come from you. If you want to work with clients, then just get over the fact that you’re going to have to market you. You’re going to have to talk to people. You’re going to have to show them. That’s the key word. And you show them by being “it” yourself. That’s how you help someone attain this enlightened consciousness.
Prosperity, abundant life by doing it themselves, by you first being the example of it, and them being inspired by you. Inspiration. You can give them inspiration by being it, but when you get so frustrated and flustered and can’t help because they can’t see, it’s because they can’t receive on the vibration that you’re on, and the only way that you can get them to hear or see is for you to drop down into where they are, and are you willing to do that? Are you willing to risk that? Are you willing to go there?
“Because that’s what I was doing. I kept dropping down to try to kind of tug that along and try to pull and try to make that happen. It was my energy; it was my desire, and they can’t run on my desire,” and one of my clients told me this.
“Your belief is so strong, you believe in us more than we believe in us, and that’s a beautiful thing. I love that. It’s very fun to be around you, but then when you’re not there, I have nothing to tap into. And I don’t know what to do next because I need you there.”
And so, this came full circle with that awareness. It’s been a few weeks now. We had this conversation and I recognize it and it’s true. I do, I believe very strongly. I’m invested very strongly. Just like the question was, I’m invested in my client’s results. What do I do? And the answer was you can only go and do it and be it and be the inspiration.
And then offer them the best offer to guide them. Offer to show them by being the example of it, and then giving them feedback on where you see that they may be getting lost. But here’s the problem. The world is so occupied with knowledge that many of the clients won’t come in all the way.
As soon as they start coming in and they sense the belief and they’re like, “oh, she believes. Here we go.” They’re believing their lack of confidence, lack of clarity, lack of belief, lack of desire. Because if they desire, they’ll be disappointed if they don’t get it right.
So that’s what they’ve been running on, that lack of desire actually. And then you have to pull. So, it’s like, what if you didn’t pull? What if you just was the example of what if you were just the being? What if you were just the example? And allow them and their inner being to come the rest of the way so you can be in alignment with source and self.
Follow your own inner being, your own inner knowing, right? Following your own consciousness, being the example that’s showing them how to do it by you first being your best. That’s one of the first rules that we teach in school. If you want to get more clients, you have to first be your best client, because if you aren’t getting results on your product, how are you possibly going to sell or give that to someone else?
That’s where the imposter syndrome comes from because you’re not actually doing it yourself, you’re not experiencing it, and quite honestly, you’re not sure if it’s going to work for them because it hasn’t worked for.
So, it all brings this all into full circle. So as a coach, as a practitioner, as a healer, as a teacher, where you are being the example and holding the space, you can believe in them.
You can believe in the best for them. And then you have to be willing to let them decide like I had to. Do I want to go all the way? Do I want to get this here? Am I ready? That’s another thing. Am I in the frequency to receive? Do I have the ability to receive in this moment? Because if they don’t have the ability to receive, I can give and give and give and give and believe, and believe and believe, and tell them, “you’re amazing. You’re beautiful. You’re so smart. Everyone loves you.” They can’t receive it. So, it’s like it hits a brick wall. It doesn’t penetrate into them because their resistance blocks. Does that make sense? Their resistance won’t be able to get it to receive it, so it actually stops that.
So that’s lesson number two from Abraham, is if their inner being can’t get them on board, do you really think that you can? And why would you even want to? Because then it’s not coming from them. So, I thought that was very refreshing. I swear, I felt 30 pounds lift off of my body. I was like, “I got exactly what I needed and wanted.”
I love that I was chosen to be a part of this, to participate in this. I’m forever changed by that awareness that, and I know that’s something that a lot of you dabble with because we really want to, we want to make a difference, right? We all want to make a difference. We all want to live our purpose, serve.
It’s innately human and it’s really hard for us to receive that for ourselves. But that is what you are craving. You’re craving your own validation. You’re craving belief in yourself. You’re craving. That confidence and clarity for you, and so you’re trying to give it someone else for those who struggle with this.
I have an earlier episode called “The Wounded Healer.” If not, it’s something close to that. And it’s very early in the beginning of the podcast. My producer can put the link below, but that’s something that I struggled with a lot, is we want to desperately give them what we need.
It’s a projection, reflection of our own needs and desires. So, that was really exciting. I hope that you received a release from that burden and that pressure also and can see where the pulling and the tugging is not our responsibility. It’s not our job, and actually it’s going to harm you. So that’s where my dissatisfaction was coming from.
That’s where my frustration and kind of like, “I can’t have what I want and need.” That’s a sign of depression. So, depression is like not believing you’ll ever get what you want and need, and then not being able to express that where there is expression, there is no depression. You’ve got to be able to express that disappointment, that sadness, the fear, the whatever it is, because if you can express it, you’ll release.
Got it. So, I noticed the signs because this is something that I dealt with a lot. But really the truth is, guys, I want to serve more. I want to have more live events. I want to make it more affordable for more people. So, we’re looking for places to host where you could maybe come share a room. We’re going to make it as close to airports as possible and have these venues and event spaces to be something that you can afford no matter where you’re coming from.
That’s the intention. With this, I’m not exactly sure what we’re calling it yet. More than likely, it’s grown your life, how to improve your health, wealth, and relationships, how to connect source with self, how to release the old identity and create, create this you, this being that you already are. And so, it’s really about, releasing generational pattern cycles and habits and embodying potential positive potential that you already are.
How to help you turn that on and step into this high vibe, joyous, ease, flow, and freedom. That is what my clients gave me testimonials on the 10-week intensive. They feel liberated, they feel empowered, they feel confident and courageous. They feel whole. They feel connected.
There was something missing and they weren’t sure what it was, but it was actually, coming back to that wholeness within themselves. Something that some had never, ever, ever, ever, ever experienced, because many of us came from homes that did not show us how to do that. Everyone was just surviving, and it wasn’t like a necessity, but now it is.
Now the way the world is really busy, a lot of information, there’s been a lot of things that have happened that’s out of the ordinary, especially the last two years. That’s what I’m seeing with this whole-body acceptance and embodiment is like our life got shaken up. We went out of routine; we didn’t move as much as we used to.
We started eating different things. We had a lot of stress and pressure and worry and concern, and now we’re on the flip side of that. Feeling the effects. We’re filling the manifestation of what was created before. It’s just now coming into physical form, which is all about the Law of Attraction.
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