Could it be time to call yourself on your B.S. lies? The stories we tell ourselves and others are just that — laced with lies we hold as true. This episode is calling you to become a detective and investigate for yourself.
Carefully consider whether your words are true and supported by facts, and to challenge your perceptions of past events to gain a better understanding of your beliefs, and potentially release negative memories that may be holding you back.
We can begin the journey today by examining the stories we tell ourselves and others, and uncover what is true, what is a belief, and what is a story.
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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:
- Questioning the truth of our stories, and how to decide if we want to keep living them
- The difference between being healed and being whole
- The addictive pattern of seeking healing
- When we invest in building deeper relationships we are taking responsibility for ourselves
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Full Episode Transcript:
Ep #219: Laced with Lies – The Stories We Tell
And welcome back to the show. Guys, we are all about beliefs right now. We have the belief bootcamp in Austin, Texas. It’s belief in business, and it’s all about money. Your beliefs around money? The money you want to make. What you want to do in your business? Your personal life? How much more money do you want to make?
Listen, money beliefs are scary. It is your brain telling you that you are not safe, that you’re going to run out, that’s not going to be enough, you’re going to starve, be homeless, live under a bridge. You know what I’m talking about? What my brain does anyway. It’s a little crazy. Cray, Cray. Anyway, let’s check out a little story for you that is not so funny.
I have been taking this supplement, this Focus supplement, and turns out I really love this stuff, but turns out I didn’t take it for a couple of days and started having withdrawal symptoms, which led me to do some discovery, and I have to tell you, I have been through a mean detox for the last five days. But today, I am back.
So, be careful, what you take that’s all natural. I do not typically mess with stuff like that that I have not checked out, but someone told me about it, someone shared it, seemed great, worked amazing until I noticed, it was losing its effect. I was taking more, and I was missing it and not liking who I was without it and that’s when I started questioning and got really scared about it and decided, okay, let me see and not take it and holy hell. holy hell. I got off at Adderall after eight years, taking Adderall every single day. This was worse. It was so bad. Hot sweats, not sleeping insomnia. My body was super agitated. I hated being in it.
Just want to say that in case you’re interested, you might or might not be. I’m all about transparency and I did not hide it. Because I believe if it can happen to me, it could happen to anyone else. I may actually do a review on the product.
If I would not have mindset, if I would not have emotional stability, if I would not have these tools. If I wouldn’t be an overcomer and disciplined and committed, I would have gone down with it. I am telling you so scary. I even put a note on it because when I quit something, when I decide that I’m not going to do it, like when I quit smoking, when I quit drinking, I make sure that I have the substance in the house, which I know sounds crazy. But if it is absent and I want it, I will jump through hoops to go get it. But if it is present, I will tap into my discipline and control, and that bitch will not beat me. And so that’s just the way I work.
Maybe I like a little challenge. So I was sitting here looking at it, just got a new supply in, it put a sticker on top of it that says it’s a no. And I had to look at that over and over and over because I just knew if I could just do it one more time, I would feel so much better because this feels like ass. Just saying, got to the other side. I feel amazing, so much better, so much clearer, and not so much pressure in my head, and my body is not so agitated. So in case you wanted to know what goes on in my life.
So speaking of laced, that’s the name of today’s show. Laced with Lies. And I am talking about the stories that you tell. Stories that you tell yourself and others are laced with lies. And if you are not willing to challenge those stories, if you are not willing to question yourself, if you believe everything your mind says, you are in a bind. Just want you to know that.
I was just coaching a client on this. I’ve always done four one on one clients, and I am now currently in coach training, so I’m doing that right now, so I had all this free time. And so I let eSchool come in and all have these free sessions just to check-in with them. And I can’t tell you, how many lies I heard doing those sessions? People, you have to be willing to challenge your mind.
So I’m going to give you a few steps, things to look out for, maybe some little keywords to be aware of, so that you can know when it’s happening because it’s very often it just slips by. And it very often goes undetected because you have been saying it for so long. Some of these calls that we did, thirty years, eighteen years, ten years, five years ago, that was the last time that incident had happened, and they were still believing it. So you got to be willing to question anything beyond today. Even yesterday, even this morning, guys, if you don’t challenge it, you will be living it. You don’t challenge it. You will live it. I promise you.
So laced with lies, is really understanding that the inner dialogue, the outer dialogue, the story, the belief system. With lies that are just a habit. You don’t even recognize that you do it. It’s something that you heard, something that someone else said. Very often it’s an experience that you personally had and then it created this image, this vision in your body, like it’s now in the system of the body, and you don’t challenge it. And so when you when your body matches the sensation of what you tell yourself, you believe it’s true.
So, it might look like I can’t do that, they’ll hate me. And then you suddenly feel this anxiety, this fear, and this, like, what if what if I die alone, then you instantly believe that it’s true. And so it has this loop that continues. And that’s why you don’t question it because you feel it, you believe your feelings, because you hear it, you believe your mind, you continue to live it.
So, I want you to be aware of that. I want you to start challenging this. This is something that I teach my coaches and I work with my clients and self-healing masters on. It is big. So, couple of suggestions. I’m going to give you three suggestions to do to start becoming the detective.
Is when you tell a story to someone else or yourself. So it could be just inner dialogue or very often you are saying it out loud. And if your friends are not challenging you, if your coach is not challenging you, you would not know this. Got it?
So, it’s got to take someone who is aware to bring it to the surface for you to, pause and say, hold on, is that true? Are you sure? Tell me again. When did that happen? Like, they need to ask the investigator questions. Do you remember a few weeks ago I talked about factuate?
Please get more factual with your story. Quit generalizing and giving these overall assumptions kind like telling this generic story and be specific. So when you say I don’t have a lot of money, say exactly how much you do have. Got it?
This is also a trick to work with the law of attraction. Because most of the time, it doesn’t work because you continue telling the stories of the past. Instead of telling the stories of the future.
So, first thing to do, question the stories, you tell, to others. So when you say something to them, you just pause and listen to what you just said. And then ask yourself is that true? Because sometimes I remember I remember doing this. I would say something. I was like, I’m lying. That is a lie. Oh my god. I can’t believe I said that. That is not true. I don’t know why I said that. It’s like these little habits that just flow out of your tongue. We don’t even question them most of the time because we’re so non present that we’re just gibberish. You know, we’re just like talking shit. Small talk. And we don’t recognize that those words have power. And I talked about living the Four Agreements. That is being impeccable with your words.
So, question the story that you tell others. Listen to what comes out of your mouth. Ask yourself, was that true? Is that true? Could I prove it in a court of law? Do I have facts to back it up? How true is it? Let me let me, like, write it out and get all of the details that the formula for the story.
Let’s break the story apart and see if it is factual and if it can be proven. So I ate like a pig today. Okay? Is that true? What exactly did you eat? Is that what a pig would eat? Is that how a pig would eat? Like, those kinds of things, I can’t do that. They’re my clients, they’ll fire me.
Something like, let’s just say you decide to do fifty-minute sessions instead of sixty-minute sessions or let’s say you just do, like, it could be anything that you’re doing right now, and you choose to do differently. The story that your mind will tell you is I got to keep doing it this way. Because they’re not going to like it. If I change it, they’re going to fire me, they’re going to want their money back, like just recognize the story. That’s all I’m saying.
Now I’m not telling you that there’s a right or wrong. I’m just asking you to question so that you know what your motives are, you know what your intention is, and you know what your beliefs are backed by. So question the stories that you tell others and the stories that you tell yourself. So when you are going to do something, what stopped you from doing it? Or when you go to do something, what compelled you to do it? You want to check both of those? I’m eating the Oreos at eight thirty at night because I won’t do that right now because I’m too tired. I’m not clear enough. I don’t feel like I’m happy enough. To say that. See what the story is behind it.
Number two, anything beyond today should be unpacked. So that means unpack means factuate. So anything that you’re talking about that is beyond today, like if it happened yesterday, five years ago, three months ago, sixteen years ago, forty years ago, be willing to tear that story apart as if it were being investigated by an attorney on the opposing side. Like, if you were on the stand, and someone were asking you every detail. When did it happen? What were you wearing? Was it daytime or nighttime? Like, really write out all of the details. This could go five pages long. You can just write out the story of exactly what you are describing, and in what you’re making about that story, what truth do you think you’re living by repeating that story over and over? You know, an example of this is, you can have a household with three to five kids in it. And those kids are now adults. And if they were to tell a story of something that happened, they would all tell it in a different way.
We cannot trust our memories. We cannot trust our perception of those memories. I’m telling you have to challenge this I often asked my clients. I was like, I have a, like, a hack. It is a very powerful trick. And I can help you to release those negative memories, and they will never, ever show up again. Do you want to do it? And almost a hundred percent tell me no because they are afraid to release the memories because they will not who know who they are. And I’m like, isn’t that great news that you would actually learn who you are instead of pretending to be who you thought you were, but they won’t. They won’t give them up very few.
If you were one, that I have taken you through the session and you are still living by it. Send me an email or let us know in the more than mindset group because I know you are out there. I do this. I know that. Your life is forever changed. And something about letting go of those stories threatens us because we’re afraid we won’t know who we are if we don’t have the memories. Because we believe the memories crafted our existence and problem with that is you believe you are your memories. And that’s a problem, my friend. Because if you believe you are your memories, then you just keep recreating your past. Deep work. Right?
So, anything beyond today should be unpacked. It should be factored situated. You should be able to tell the story with full details so that you can find what is a story, what is belief, what is truth out of that story. Then you’re going to ask these three questions. This is the third one. So the first one was question, the stories you tell, others and yourself. The second, anything beyond today should be unpacked. And fluctuated.
And number three, ask yourself, is that true? Everything that comes out your mouth. Start questioning every sentence. Just for fun. You don’t have to do this forever. Just take a day. Question every sentence that comes out of your mouth. Every thought that goes through your mind that you are paying attention to because there’s a lot of thoughts, we don’t pay attention to. Is that true? And just pause. Then ask, is that true today? Is that true today?
The thing that you say to others are things that you say to yourself, the thoughts that go through your head that you recognize. Is that true today? Do I know that for a fact? Can it be proven in a court of law? And the third question is, is that what I want to keep living? What I just said, do I want that to be my truth of today? Do I want to continue to recreate that? Is that what I want to keep? Because you have a choice. You do not have to keep your thoughts, your habits, your patterns, your behaviors of the past. You can change those at any given moment. Transformation it is just a moment in time that you are completely transformed the way from the way that you used to believe into the way that you become. Transformation is a moment in time where you have a new awareness. And then you are liberated from the patterns, habits, behaviors. And you can, therefore, make a decision, an empowered decision of what you want to create moving forward. Just a moment in time. And it’s just like little moments over and over and over.
You got to be careful because we get this addictive pattern where we want to be healed. Guys, you don’t need to be healed. You need to be whole. And if you are getting weekly sessions and it’s been years and you’re still working with whether it’s a therapist or a healer or a hypnotherapist or a I don’t know. It could be what inner other kind of energy work it is that you are just it’s been years and you are still working with your killer or doing killing sessions. I think you could challenge that and possibly be surprised that it’s just a habit.
The brain gets a dopamine hit when you get an aha. And when you’re in these sessions, I know because I performed these sessions and very often it’s because there’s something powerful about punching the hole in the theory. And when you can go beyond the mind and explore these subconscious patterns, there is this huge liberation that you feel on a visceral level, and we get addicted to that. Just like you get addicted to the felling in meditation or the way that you feel after yoga or after a workout or when I was taking this stuff these supplements, like, oh my God.
It was like, oh, I was so calm and focused and on target, like, I wanted more of that and that is what creates addictive patterns. Food does the same thing when you take a bite into the Oreo or the ice cream or whatever it is because it’s that it’s what is produced from the brain. And we get hooked on it. And when we can do these sessions, and get this liberation, we kind of we acclimate back to the norm after and then we want to go get it again, and then we want to go get it again.
But I want to challenge you of, do you want to be healed or do you want to be whole? Because you can be whole still have those memories that are out there existed, but not in here existed. And the stories stay out there with the memories and all that’s left is this wholesome you. And when you do this, you will not have that temptation to buffer, to numb out, to run away from, to avoid what is going on in real time. That’s the biggest problem is whenever you keep wanting to go into whatever the sessions or whatever the past is and go and get this liberation is you actually are avoiding being here right now.
And the whole goal of being human is to experience all that’s happening in the material world. It’s kind of gross out there. It is not always nice. We’ve been entitled to think that we need to feel happy and good and successful all the time. And that’s the bullshit. That’s the lie. It’s like this these theories somebody came up with and started feeding society in its bullshit. It is not comfortable being a human. There are days I do not want to human. I want to just coach and I want to be in my own community. And then when I got to go back out there and the crazy ass world and social media, I want to come run back in here.
And so I’m addicted to work because it feels really good to be in session with people who are radically responsible for themselves, and we can have a conversation that is inspiring, that is interesting, that is engaging, because that’s the that’s what I’ve created. That’s the culture that I have created in self-healing masters, in eSchool, in mind body coach training. I’ve created that. I’ve taught people how to do that for themselves. I have built friendships on building relationship, and I’ve taught them how to take responsibility for themselves so that we can be in a deeper, richer communication and relationship. Got it?
And so I want that all the time, but I live in the material world where there’s a lot of skanky people and a lot of drama and I have people who don’t give a rat’s ass about personal growth and development. They don’t want change; they don’t want anything different, and I love them.
I love them and they don’t understand me and that makes me suffer. It’s hard because I want to be in rich inspiring conversations with them and they don’t care. That’s not what they want to talk about, man. They want to talk about the ballgame. They want to talk about going out. They want to talk about the things that don’t feel important to me. So what’s important to me? Is that important to them? And what’s important to them is not important to me.
I don’t give a crap about their shoes or that purse or that I don’t like shopping. I don’t care about the deal that’s going on. I just don’t. I’m not interested. Same way that they’re not interested in what I’m talking about here today. And I still love them. And I still want to be by them, and I still want to be in relationship with them. So the conversation changes. It’s just a different conversation. There’s no way they can accept me for who I am if I can’t accept them for who they are. Got it?
So, for this week, I want to challenge you to check out the stories that you tell yourself and others, I want you to recognize that some are laced with lies. And until you see the lie, you will continue to live the lie and call it your truth.
So, the campaign laced with lies. I am a detective. I’m going to ask the three questions, is that true? Is that true today? And is that what I want to keep living? Ask those three questions. And unpack it to write a story about it, man.
Put all the details on paper and then get a marker or a highlighter. And go back to wherever you wrote it out at, and I want you to highlight the facts, so I want you to evaluate it. So the story could be five pages long, highlight what is a fact so that you can be the detective that is liberating and empowering yourself. Got it? I love you.
Thanks for listening. It’s so good to be back in my body. Careful what you take. By the way, this product, it was not on what is suspected, was not on the label. It was so innocent, and it is so scary because this is available over the counter everywhere. Just got to say that I was completely thrown off by this experience and I’m just so glad I didn’t introduce it and that I’m not, like, with someone that I love who is, like, hooked. Because that would be painful. If I wouldn’t be so disciplined and so committed to my health and my consciousness, I would be in a bind. I just want to say that. So I am very thankful, more so today than I was yesterday or the day before, the day before.
And I am going to scrub and release the memories of what that felt like because I went to be done with it. I do not want to control me. I want you to question the same thing, are you willing to be done with the past memories? Are you willing to scrub to clean it up?
Call this brainwashing, man, you got to go in there and clean up your brain, get rid of those memories. Unless you want them to dictate or predict your future, unless you want to keep living them, I’m going to challenge you to clean it up, flush it, get rid of it, in whatever way is comfortable for you.
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All right, guys. Have a great week. Thanks for listening to this episode of More Than Mindset.